3.31.2014

A Love Letter to Cosplay & Ideas for Beginner Costumes



Hey guys! Today I'm talking about how to use cosplay for self esteem; as well as, the negatives and positives in the cosplay community! Just a warning, the video has some saucy language. As mentioned in the video, here is Gwen's post on her experiences of self-esteem in the cosplay community, Cosplay & Self Esteem (A Response To Superheroesque)!


Ideas for First-Time Cosplay!

Iconic Characters | Iconic characters can be good first cosplays because they can be modded easily while still be recognized. For example, Wonder Woman can be made simply with a t-shirt, skirt and boots or her costume can be made super complex with detailed armor and a boned corset.

Crossover Cosplay | Crossovers is combining two series or two ideas into one costume. This can be commonly seen using Sailor Scouts mixed with other characters such as an Adventure Time Marceline Senshi. Crossovers don't have to be from two separates series, it could also be a style plus a character. For example, last year, Mia and I did Hipster versions of Adventure Time characters. (I'd love to see some more warrior/armored versions of any character, to be honest.)

American Cartoons | American cartoon characters tend to have super simple outlines and costumes making them easy to portray with any body type.

Closet/Casual Cosplay | Closet cosplay is what it sounds like, taking everyday items and fashioning them to be inspired by a certain character. Closet cosplay may be a good way to get used to dressing up as characters without making the full commitment of a costume!



P.S. - Tonight, Mia and I are going to be joining some fellow Female Geek Bloggers for a con-at-home G+ hangout, all about cosplay! We'll post a link to the hangout on Twitter with #FGBCosplay so keep an eye out.




Liz is one half of SHe's founding team, in charge of business, audio/video, and managing webpages. Has a degree in sociology and a brain full of cartoons. Can be found consistently fangirling over TV shows and comedians. 
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3.26.2014

Cosplay & Self Esteem

Cosplayer: Kim Bishop as Mitsuru Kirijo from Persona 3, Photo: AR Photography

I have written and rewritten this post many, many times. Cosplay has made such a huge impact on my life in ways that I don't always feel comfortable sharing with people. But today, I want to tell you a little bit about my personal experience with cosplay.

Let me be candid with you - my biggest struggles are internal. I am lucky in many, many ways, but my brain is constantly working against me through depression and anxiety, which tend to manifest in self-destructive behavior. Along with other self-care techniques, cosplaying has made a really big impact on the way I view myself.

Cosplayer: Jelfish as Supergirl, Photo: Obtuse Photography

Cosplay as a Transformative Hobby

Cosplay has taught me many things - trimming bangs, applying false eyelashes, sewing skirts, and carving props, to name a few. But cosplay is so much more than learning new skills or dressing up for a day. It is transformative, externally as well as internally. Of course we all love to completely change for a day - becoming our favorite characters is just too much fun! But I definitely believe that cosplaying has changed me on the inside, too.

Since I began cosplaying regularly, I have experienced my self-esteem improving by leaps and bounds. I used to feel uncomfortable in my own skin. I didn't have any hobbies or skills and I generally had low-self worth. Now, I'm not saying that cosplaying has completely removed all those feelings, but I think it's had a unique, positive impact, unlike anything else I've encountered.

The more I think about it, the more I realize that cosplay has a few different aspects that help improve your self-image: the actual creation of the costume, your perception of yourself through photographs, and the ability to be who you want to be.

Cosplayer: Maddison as Reese from Animal Crossing: New Leaf, Photo: Mel Shardae

Creativity, Learning Skills, and Improving Confidence

Cosplay is such a wide hobby - two cosplayers can have completely different motives, skill sets, and costume genres. There are also so many components to participating in this hobby that I feel are crucial to how it positively impacts self-esteem.

First of all, working on cosplaying widens your skill set. I went into this hobby without knowing how to sew, paint, or do anything remotely crafty. Slowly but surely, cosplay has improved a huge range of skills and made me realize I am a creative person. I feel more confident in taking on totally new projects - cosplay has shown me that I can learn how to do anything I want to, even if it takes some work at first. That translates to areas outside of cosplaying, too - I'm a lot more comfortable trying something new without beating myself up if I don't succeed right away.

There's something nice about having a completed project under your belt, especially one that's just for yourself (rather than an external factor, like school or work). I've found that one thing that helps my anxiety is measurable successes. Each component of a project that gets checked off my list makes me feel like I'm in control of the situation. It feels really good to be able to say that I made something and to actually finish a project I've started.

Cosplayer: PirateKitty as Queen Nehellenia from Sailor Moon, Photo: Velton Baker

Photography and Self-Image

Not only does cosplay involve creating something, but unlike many other hobbies, you actually wear your creation, usually in a social setting. My first few times cosplaying, I shied away from cameras, posed awkwardly, and generally felt uncomfortable. But the more I cosplayed, the more I learned how to look the way I wanted in photos and how to pose to evoke a character. I've now realized that a lot of the "bad" photos of me I used to be so embarrassed of were caused by my own poor body language and uncomfortableness. Cosplay has helped me improve my confidence taking pictures, and therefore improve my own self-perception. (You know all those articles about how selfies are empowering? Totally applies here!)

For someone who is insecure in their looks, it can be refreshing to know you have the ability to look nice in photos. Posing a trained behavior, not something that everyone is a natural at. Once I discovered that I could improve my skills in front of the camera, I was a lot less intimidated by taking photographs. In turn, my photographs turned out better and I felt better about myself - sort of a domino effect!

Cosplayers: Mary as Princess Kenny from South Park: The Stick of Truth
Mia as Ramona Flowers from Scott Pilgrim vs. the World: The Game, Photo: FirstGlance Photography

Be Who You Want To Be

Finally, I think there's something to be said about embodying characters you idolize for one reason or another. The first time I dressed as Ramona, I realized that I could theoretically be this person if I wanted to be. It's not as far away from reality as I originally thought. In other words, dressing as and acting like characters you admire can help you realize that it's entirely within your power to be the person you want to be. You're not tied to the person you are today; you can change your appearance and behavior to suit your desires. And for me, that's an incredibly freeing feeling.

So what about you? Has cosplay changed the way you perceive yourself? Which elements give you the most confidence?

I'd love for you to share your experiences in the comments, or even in a submission if you feel inclined!

(And a shout out to all my fabulous cosplay friends who lent their beautiful faces for this article! Mwah!)

Mia is one half of SHe's founding team, in charge of social media, blogging management, and guest content wrangling. MBA student concentrating in Digital Marketing by day, geek of all trades by night. Loves dressing up, advocating for self-love, and crying about magical girls.
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3.11.2014

Schedule Your Self-Love!



It's Liz here with your bi-weekly YouTube video! This week's subject? Schedule your self-love! In today's video, we discuss the importance of self love and why it should be prioritized!


As promised in the video, here are some tips to scheduling some self love!

  1. Do you notice a natural lag in your week? Is there a certain day of the week that is just THE WORST? Adjust your schedule and shove a hour of self love in! Do it weekly! You should try and make it a habit to tell yourself that this time of self love is just as important as getting the groceries and should be treated as such by those around you and yourself alike. 
  2. If you're a person who has a hard time with just naturally participating in self love activities, you can create a jar with pieces of paper that have different self love activities. Then have a calendar or some sort of phone alert to tell you when it's your self love time and pull a paper! It also adds some excitement to the process if you're into that sort of thing. (We're planning on doing a super-post one day about making a self-love jar! Hope you'll stick around to see it!)
  3. Start your bedtime routine 30 minutes earlier! Then use the spare 30 minutes to wind down with a nice book, personal grooming, meditation, or even just writing out your thoughts for the day. (Also, writing out your thoughts for the day is really good for mental health and sleeping better, you should give it a try!)








Liz is one half of SHe's founding team, in charge of business, audio/video, and managing webpages. Has a degree in sociology and a brain full of cartoons. Can be found consistently fangirling over TV shows and comedians. 
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3.05.2014

How I Learned to Love the Geek

I’ve been a geek since before I knew what a geek was. I was definitely a geek before it was acceptable to be a geek. I don’t remember a point in my life before Star Trek, Star Wars, Highlander, Lord of the Rings, or any form of fantasy and sci-fi. Pretty much anything I read was fantasy, sci-fi, or horror (which I, personally, find highly related to the other two). I even threw myself into my more “typical” adolescent girl interests—horses, for example—with a geeky fervor. You know what I’m talking about—the drive to find out everything about a subject, to surround yourself with the things you love, and to develop a passionate relationship with your interests.

I’m tempted to list out everything that made me into a young geek, but I know that’s not necessary. It ultimately doesn’t matter if you were into comic books, science fiction TV shows, or writing fanfiction—if you’re a young nerd, it tends to show through very easily. It reminds me of part of my favorite quote from John Green—he says that nerds are ultimately just “too enthusiastic about the miracle of human consciousness.” This enthusiasm often can’t be contained. It’s similar to the look someone gets when they talk about someone they love—except for nerds, it comes about when we talk about Harry Potter, World of Warcraft, or Battlestar Gallactica. There shouldn’t be anything wrong with unbridled enthusiasm, and there’s nothing wrong with letting it show.



Unless, apparently, your enthusiasm makes you appear “different.” In my case, I already stood out in my small-town Catholic school. One of the terms that best describes my looks is “ethnically ambiguous” and this was even more apparent when I was young. If you coupled the fact that I looked decidedly “other” with the fact that I would always have my nose stuck in a book adorned with knights in shining armor—therefore acting obviously “other”—it was a recipe for disaster.

Without getting into too many details, my family eventually moved to a new town due to the bullying, but it really didn’t stop. I became a little less withdrawn than I was at my old school, but I had learned to treat my geekiness like a horrific disease—it was as if I felt like I was plagued with a disease that I had to keep secret from everyone else. I made a few friends throughout middle school, high school, and my undergraduate career who liked the same things I did, and that was nice. But I still felt the need to restrain my inner geek. I wrote fanfiction in secret. I hid comic books in my bedroom. If anyone made a joke at the expense of another geek, I would awkwardly chuckle but wish I could just disappear.



The stereotypical male nerd is annoyed by the role the internet played in making geekdom an acceptable subculture. I, on the other hand, can’t thank it enough. It hasn’t changed life dramatically—people still look at my strangely when I walk around in my Star Trek hoodie, for example—but it has given me a sense of belonging. When I was younger I felt like an outsider, like there was something different about me that made me love things that no one else cared about—and that they would make fun of me for loving. I was able to meet other people through the internet who did enjoy these things, though, and it made me comfortable with myself again. It let me once again embrace the enthusiasm that defines the geek community. Another helpful thing was going to graduate school—nerds purposefully put themselves into this environment, and many people enjoy the same things I do.

These communities allowed me to become comfortable enough with myself to the geek inside me roam free once more. And I have to tell you—I’m much happier with life now that I don’t care about a discouraging look or a snide comment about my nerdy hobbies and interests. If anything like that does happen, I can turn to the internet community and people there will make me feel better and confident again. I’m only sad that it took me this long to embrace the geek again. I really missed out on collecting some badass action figures over the last twenty years.

As a card-carrying member of the Justice League, honorary Star Fleet ensign, and a Ph.D student in political science, Amanda doesn't have much spare time on her hands. But when she does, she spends it gaming, nerdcrafting, marathoning shows on Netflix, debating Tolkien online, sewing costumes for cosplay, and writing on Geekphoria.net.
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3.03.2014

Girls Don't Read Comics (Obviously)

The fabulous @kateleth also signed my favorite tote bag, designed by her! ♡

From Humble Beginnings

Once upon a time, I dated someone who was really into comics. Compared to other areas of geekery, comics seemed so vast and impossible to start. Do I have to read from the very first issue ever onward? Do I really just jump in? It seemed especially intimidating to be a girl interested in comics - every time I'd gone inside a comic book shop, it had been full of dudes who were sometimes cool, but sometimes made comments about me being a girl. I didn't know the lingo, the store layout, when new issues came out... Even if I knew what I wanted, I was too terrified to ask where it was, lest I be deemed a fake geek. When I dated my comics-loving partner, he introduced me to the world of comics. I slowly started reading trades (paperbacks that collect story arcs spanning several issues) and eventually started picking up a few issues every week. Then The New 52 happened, all the stories I was following were cancelled, and, betrayed, I quit reading comics for a few years.

In the past six months or so, I've been getting back into reading comics again. There's a lot of great stuff happening now - the first-ever Muslim superheroine, Ms. Marvel, saw her first issue sell out completely, there's an openly transgender character in Batgirl, artists and writers are speaking out about mistreatment, and there's a push within the industry to be more transparent and more inclusionary overall. While the comics industry itself is still very much a boys club, now's a great time to get into comics and prove there's simply no reason to be exclusionary.

I met @kateleth and got a copy of Seeing Red! Oh, and one for Liz, surprise! ♥♡♥

Oh Yes, It's Ladies Night

One of the great comic book shops here, Austin Books and Comics, hosted a signing by Canadian comic artist and writer Kate Leth, followed by an after-hours Ladies Night. I went to the signing despite my own anxieties about going to an event alone - because really, when is Kate Leth going to be in Texas again? - and after talking with some of the employees, decided to stay and see if I could make any friends at Ladies Night. Plus, Kate Leth was going to be hanging out, and I was hoping to chat with her a little without being such a nervous mess.

My experience was nothing short of incredible. I met some faces in person that I'd only known online (hi Lori!), chatted with amazing ladies about everything from favorite comics to experiences with sexism to musicals to sexuality. It was a giant collection of geeky women, all of whom were friendly, approachable, and super cool. I felt so comfortable in the store, a total contrast from how I felt when I first arrived for the signing. I drove home with a Wonder Woman tote bag full of previews of classic, essential comics and coupons, and, most importantly, a full heart.

Mini-haul from Staple Expo and Austin Books and Comics! I couldn't resist getting Rat Queens (even though I've been waiting for the trade), and I love the Sailor Moon art zine!

Why Focus on Women?

When Ladies Night was starting, someone asked why he was getting kicked out of the store. One of the employees responded that they were hoping to create a safe environment for women who were interested in comics. Although the man who asked wasn't too pleased with this answer, I think that Ladies Night is a welcome change in the comics world. Depending on sources, comic book readers are over 40% women, so we aren't some small minority. But there are few women in the comic book industry, and while there are female leads, many of them are written for male audiences or their male counterparts get far more attention. (Take a look at any of the recent comic book movies - how many of them have a female lead?) Moreover, the pervasive myth of the Fake Geek Girl makes it intimidating to be a newbie in the comics world. Simply put, there are female geeks out there who read comics or want to read comics, and the industry is blocking their entry into the hobby.

This is why we need to create safe spaces for geeky women. Instead of being ignored by comic creators and comic shops, events like Ladies Night welcome women into the genre and allow an easy jumping-on point. I would gladly bring any friend of mine who wants to get started with comics to this kind of event. It's a casual, no-pressure way to get familiar with your local comic book shop, meet like-minded ladies, and pick up a few issues or trades to get started.

The comics industry needs events like this to stop alienating its female fanbase and start welcoming it with open arms. Personally, I am much more likely to shop at a store that has made efforts to be inclusive to females - I've had too many bad experiences at comic shops based on my gender.  Events like Ladies Night bring geeks and creators closer to realizing that it is more valuable to welcome every geek into the community than to exclude.

If you are interested at getting into comics, here's a few resources for you!

I love looking to podcasts or YouTube for specific issue reviews and asking friends what they're reading. If you like a character, you can always Google around to find their best or most essential storylines. Otherwise, dive in!



Mia is one half of SHe's founding team, in charge of social media, blogging management, and guest content wrangling. MBA student concentrating in Digital Marketing by day, geek of all trades by night. Loves dressing up, advocating for self-love, and crying about magical girls.
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